This Week
Chessed of Tiferes - Lovingkindness in Compassion
April 17 - 30th Nissan
When I show compassion to others, is it out of Love or out of pity? Am I talking down to others? Do others think I am talking down to them? Our goal should be to show compassion because of love for others. It's important to remember we help others because we love them, not because we feel bad.
Today, when helping someone out, help them in the fullest way, make sure to have a smile on your face, and go the extra mile.
Gevurah of Tiferes - Discipline of Compassion
April 18 - 1st Iyar
Having compassion needs direction, sometimes we need to be extra compassionate, and sometimes we need to hold back a little. Like when you know giving your sister candy for breakfast is a bad idea. When we are so focused on others we sometimes end up hurting ourselves, like helping a friend study but then not doing our own homework. We need to know when to not be extra compassionate.
Today, practice a disciplined act of compassion.
Tiferes of Tiferes - Compassion of Compassion
April 19 - 2nd Iyar
There is no limit to true compassion. When we have true compassion we act out of selflessness. This allows us to really think about the other person's needs. Think about if you are able to help others selflessly when you don't feel bad, or for your benefit. If not, what is blocking you from being able to help them?
Today, try being compassionate towards someone you are less comfortable around or do something for someone else that makes you step out of your comfort zone.
Netzach of Tiferes - Endurance of Compassion
April 20 - 3rd Iyar
Is my compassion for others consistent or do I often flake and not follow through? Am I compassionate for others when I am busy with other tasks? Although we are often very busy, when we take a few moments for someone who needs us, we show a new level of compassion.
Today, in the middle of your busy day call a friend or a classmate you haven't caught up with within a while or spend a few moments talking to someone who could use a friend.
Hod of Tiferes - Humility of Compassion
April 21 - 4th Iyar
For compassion to not be out of pity or be condescending (looking down upon) we need to focus on being humble. Hod is recognizing that by showing compassion I don't become better than the one whom I'm helping. Hashem is the one who gave me the gift to show compassion to others.
Today, do something for someone without taking credit. Like washing the dishes for mom and not waiting for a thank you.
Yessod of Tiferes - Bonding of Compassion
April 22- 5 Iyar
Compassion is channelled through both the giver and the receivers' bond, continuing past the moment of need. When you help someone out, like helping someone pick up papers that fell, you've shared in a moment. When you continue to strengthen the relationship you see the results of having compassion.
Today, spend some 1 on 1 time with someone you care for, either a friend, parent, or sibling - have a bonding moment.
Malchus of Tiferes - Nobility of Compassion
April 23 - 6th Iyar
Sometimes, when we help others, they feel pity. Malchus of Tiferes ensures that the other person feels stronger and dignified.
Today, instead of giving someone help, give them the tools to help themselves. Like a friend who is struggling with homework, don't just help them, but show them how they can help themself next time.